Tuesday, October 11, 2011

How Important is Sex in relationships?

All of us crave for perfect relationships. All the emotional sharing, peace, provision, trustworthiness blah blah blah. This article is not to x-ray what a perfect relationship should look like because I believe that there is no perfect one rather people involved in the relationship seek mutual ways to attain "perfection"

SCENARIO A: Ben and Rose started dating a month ago. Rose is a strong believer of NO SEX in a relationship unless she is married. Ben knew this forehand before getting into the relationship. Ben anticipates sex and feels that one day Rose will yield to it or better still get it elsewhere.





SCENARIO B: Ken and Mary have been dating for the past 6 months. They met in a mall, became friends for about a month and started dating. Two months into their relationship they are sleeping together like rabbits; seriously craving for each other’s bodies. They claim they are crazily in love with each other and tend to explore all new tricks and ways to improve on their sex life as they believe it’s a bonding factor.

SCENARIO C: Matt and Sharon and the best friends they can be. Seriously dating, share similar virtues of NO SEX until marriage. It's really working out for them as planned. No gimmicks. They have got used to themselves together without the thoughts of getting down in their minds.

These scenarios are no way strange to any of us. Each of us fall into one of these 3 categories. Either you are cheating or getting it in the relationship or saving the best for the last. My big question now anchors on scenario A. Why get into what you cannot keep up with? This applies to both the males and female folks. I strongly recommend that perfect lines are drawn and agreements reached before messing up with each other's heart. In as much as it ain't a business deal, so there will not be a "what do you expect from me" kind of template, the signs from inception shows the process all the way. Better still, once a partner finds out s/he cannot keep up with the policy and rule book of the other it is really best to take a walk.

In my opinion there is really no need to keep up with a relationship where our individual desires are not met mutually neither doing stuffs behind each other's back is ideal. I believe we all need to walk the talk and live a life we can account for.

Please do explore other scenarios that do exist also.


These are only my thoughts and in no way approved ways or patterns of dating. It is only meant to project my views and I am still open to constructive criticisms.

1 comment:

  1. bt honestly,sex z nt impt in a rlnship. D rlnship cn work well wout it,so i dnt knw y sm pple fnk dt knt survive wout it.

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